Law of Expectation!

Often, our expectations are based on the assumptions we make about other people. The same applies to ourselves. Have you ever noticed how your expectations become reality in your personal life? Expectations are literally a self-fulfilling prophecy. We do this both consciously and subconsciously.

Do you remember the kid in elementary school who was always very noisy and annoying? Sometimes, if people already assume or perceive a certain way, then that’s exactly how they will behave, even if they don’t want to. The noisy kid in elementary school knew everyone found him annoying, and so he was. The teacher expected bad behavior and that’s what they got, so the expectations were fulfilled!

Think about the profound impact this can have on your own life. Are the assumptions and expectations you have about yourself liberating or victimizing? There are countless examples of “self-fulfilling prophecies” that work in everyday life.

Have you ever noticed how people who believe they won’t do well in their new job, suddenly experience a drop in the quality and enthusiasm for their work? And then what happens? They don’t do well in their new job! Their belief, makes them act in a specific way and these expectations then work to bring about exactly what was initially only a piece of their imagination. The mind works to satisfy us!

From the moment we think we won’t do well in our new job, the mind believes this is what we want and works to guide us towards this direction!

In another study, second-grade students heard statements from their teachers before taking a math test. There were three types of statements: expectation, persuasion, or reinforcement.

Expectation statements were something like: “You know your math very well!” or “You work very hard on your math”.

Persuasion statements included phrases like: “You should be good at math.” or “You should get better grades in math”.

Finally, for reinforcement statements, teachers would say things like: “I am very happy with your progress” or “This is excellent work!” Now, what do you think the results were?

The scores were highest in the “expectation” category! Why were expectation statements the most effective? They created personal assumptions in each student. These assumptions defined the actual external outcomes!

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